"You are more than the choices that you've made;
You are more than the sum of your past mistakes;
You are more than the problems you create . . ."
The lyrics come from a powerful, new Tenth Avenue North song. "Remade" is thought-provoking and gentle and tough at the same time. It's about and for believers who've screwed up and destroyed their lives and feel worthless and hopeless because of their sins and consequences.
On New Year's Day, my least favorite DJ at the local Christian radio station dedicated a song to "All those lonely single people out there since the holidays can be tough on people who don't have family around them and who are wondering if they will ever find a loving person to share their lives with." It was "Remade."
I got mad. Like the Hulk gets mad. I think I actually saw black for a second there. I was seriously enraged on behalf of those who shouldn't be tarred with that particular brush simply for not dating or being married to anyone at the moment.
I could not believe anyone could possibly be so callous as to imply what she was implying. I just couldn't. I know that DJ is shallow and thoughtless and ditzy, and that's her DJ shtick, but is it really possible to be so insensitive as to not realize what you're telling people when you connect their singleness with a song about the consequences of terrible, sinful choices destroying lives such that believers can't get all those mistakes out of their minds to the point where their focus on their sinful, bad choices is destroying their relationship with God? Seriously?
That's it. I'm reading Singled Out: Why Celibacy Needs to be Reinvented in the Modern Church post haste. Maybe I'll send the DJ a copy of it with a nice note thanking her for making whoever listened to that either livid, miserable, or more misinformed.
Happy New Year to you, too, Ms. DJ. If I never listen to you again, that would make my new year much happier. On the positive side, thanks for giving me that extra push to read a book that will be sure to make me think.
So, do you think I'm overreacting? Am I overlooking something here? Do you agree that singleness (with celibacy) is a sinful choice?