So I'm reading Singled Out, and it's kind of blowing my mind. I am loving this book. (Disclaimer: This doesn't mean I agree with everything it says.)
You know how sometimes you read something, and it just articulates perfectly something that's been stewing around sloppily in your backbrain for months or years? This book is full of such articulate moments.
It starts out by talking about the positive and negative views of celibacy within the US/American church and outside of it, and this discussion is fascinating and quite frequently horrifying. The areas of overlap are quite sobering, and I think they're important for singles, marrieds, and others to seriously consider.
The US church in particular needs to carefully consider who we're marginalizing. I know my church does because they've told me quite plainly that all their focus is on married couples with children (families, as they refer to them), and there is nothing (time, energy, money, advertisements) left over for anyone else.
As a member of "anyone else," this is somewhat problematic to me. Is that really the kingdom of God as represented on Earth? Seriously? I tried to lead some things and organize some things and stir up discussion, but it didn't really work. I don't have the energy to fight it anymore. Perhaps this is connected to why so few singles post-college are involved in churches. Well, I guess that doesn't matter if the churches don't care about us anyway . . .
But then people get all judgmental about people who call themselves Christians but don't want to have anything to do with churches. I dunno, but I think there's a broken link in here somewhere.