"The problem is that trying to change unfair behavior with submissive niceness is like trying to smother a fire with gunpowder. It isn't the high road; it's the grim, well-trod path that leads from aggressive to passive, through long, horrible stretches of passive-aggressive. The real high road requires something quite different: the courage to know and follow your own truth. If anyone in your life is exploiting your courtesy and goodwill, it's time you learned how all of this works." - Martha Beck
So. Thoughts on the intersection of this and Christianity? (Especially the bits of common wisdom in the evangelical culture today?)
In my experience, this quote is correct. I worked with some amazingly terrible and toxic bosses at my last job. I did try the old Christian standby of being humbly submissive. It didn't work. I went down that crappy path and in the end found myself loathing the schadenfreude I felt when my bosses' incompetence caused them additional problems (and no only because their problems caused more problems for my beleaguered co-workers). It was a very bad place to be in. I don't recommend it. But how do we reconcile our desire to stand up for the oppressed (ourselves and our co-workers) with the command to turn the other cheek? It's a tough balance to try to figure out.
Any thoughts or experiences you've had that you can share?